Our beliefs greatly limit us. How to tell others NO. How to say no and not expect their disappointment, sadness in their eyes?
How do you allow yourself to command others to do what they need to do?
I have noticed in so many people that they easily command others what and how to do without any thought of helping them in the process. They just turn around and move on. It’s that simple.
Then why is it so hard for me to accept it? When I see such a cold command, my stomach turns. So it makes me think … why is this happening to me? Why is this command so hard for me to both watch and accept? Why do I see it as such a cold behaviour?
Then I went to observe the other side of that theory. Can I command others? I noticed I could, but not always. Only when I’m stressed, when I’m angry and nervous. Then I command very coldly and rudely. And I come across a cold distancing from the other side.
What am I doing wrong? When others command I have a feeling that everything is going smoothly, no one is complaining. When I do that, we all feel bad.
Our perception governs our thoughts, judgments, and actions. Looking then from that side, where does that perception of mine come from? Where did I pick it up? When did I first decide that commanding was something bad? That being a commander is a bad thing? From whom did I pick up those beliefs?
I found out. My grandmother ordered so coldly and repulsively. I didn’t like it. And now I’m actually repeating her steps. When I command, I am the same. Cold, rude and repulsive to others. And I actually want to be heartwarming, friendly and helpful.
How do I achieve this now without repeating the same mistakes? Where to start? Thought manipulation does not work. Saying to myself that when something like this happens again I will simply command in a gentle way. I tried, it doesn’t work. When a situation occurs, I react automatically and it is difficult for me to become aware of that in that moment and change my behavior.
So I set out to realize what meaning the word Commandment has in my perception.
Commandment for me means rudely humiliating people. Getting them to do what they don’t want to do. Frighten them and threaten them. Commandment is for me a rude and impudent act of conduct. A rude way of behaving.
That’s how I actually experienced my grandmother when she commanded me.
What feelings arise in me when someone commands me?
The commandment awakens in me anger, great resistance, rebellion, a desire to break the rules. Awaken in me arrogance and fear.
A few questions for self-analysis.
Where do you feel that anger? In which part of the body?
Where do you feel that fear?
What exactly are you afraid of?
How do you resist?
How good is that resistance for you?
Now that I am aware of this, I use Theta healing techniques to cleanse and reprogram it. So the next time I react automatically, I react in a healthy and healed way.
List the positive aspects of command.
What positive feelings does the word Commandment arouse in you?
How do you want to be commanded?
How do you want to receive that order?
How do you want to command others?
How do you want the other side to take your order?
Allow yourself to let go of all negative feelings and allow yourself to receive positive feelings related to the word Commandment.
When the reprogramming is complete, your body will heal from the blocked energy and you will be more ready to watch and experience the very moment of command in an easier, more comfortable and relaxed way.